What’s Holding You Back?


Inspiration comes in the most unusual ways. You never know where the most perfect piece of wisdom might show up. While cruising along the highway between Edmonton and Calgary, I passed under an electronic sign with a large, red flashing message:


Now it was just a reminder to buckle up your seatbelt, but this is a great question to ask yourself as you travel the highway of life.

What’s holding you back from doing, saying, being anything you want?

The short answer is simply YOU.

Why Do You Limit Yourself?

Lots of things get in the way of having the life you want. Fears, expectations, excuses, that little creeping voice that says, “what will happen if…”

There’s no end to the obstacles that can stop you dead in your tracks. The truth is most of the barriers you encounter are ones you create yourself.

All of those reasons that rumble around in your head simply strap you down just like a seat belt. Oh it’s safe all right, but life is not really a car ride where you are just along for the view.

Time to Shift Out of Neutral

Life is meant to be lived – full out – taking some risks. People who live truly satisfying lives are people who let go of the idea of holding back. They know you only get one kick at this road trip so you might as well end up where you really want to go.

Not holding back probably means doing some things differently. Creating change in your life is like shifting out of neutral and into another gear. You need to give it some gas so you can take it to the next level. And like on the highway, a little more speed is a little bit riskier.

3 New Gears to Try Out

So how do you shift up and take back the road?

Pay attention to the voices that are playing in your head. You always listen when you talk to yourself. What are you saying to you? If you regularly use words like can’t, won’t or shouldn’t, it’s time for a new conversation.

Practice until you’re good at it. Remember when you first learned to drive? Bet it wasn’t the smoothest of rides. Take opportunities to stretch your limits, even just a bit. The more you practice, the more you will be willing to try it again.

Risk is a relative thing. There are times when holding back is not such a bad idea. Be honest with yourself. Are you creating obstacles out of fear? Or are you in a zone that requires you to proceed with caution?

Life is Meant to Be a Wild Ride.

There’s a great piece of wisdom in the movie Thelma and Louise.

“You get what you settle for.”

Now that’s a couple of women who decided life was worth unbuckling the seatbelt. You may not want to drive headlong into the Grand Canyon, but chances are there are lots of places where you can take off the cruise control.

Go for it. What are you willing to settle for?

Laurel Vespi, certified life coach and chief executive guru of stone circle coaching, ignites businesses & individuals to new levels of CHANGE. Laurel works with clients internationally, providing unconventional yet practical tips that make the seemingly impossible… possible! Sign up for Laurel’s free ezine and get a free guidebook to blissful living at StoneCircleCoaching.com

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